Some people fail and some people can come up on top. Best, Because the more you do something, the more it can start to feel like a routine instead of something meaningful. I wish you luck and patience. After reading your article, am i trying to hard right now? How can I win her back again but also give her the time we both need to heal & increase the love so that this never happens again? Its been 1 month since we have given each other space and her instagram is always active. Any advise? Hi Apollonia, Working on you and not being clingy will be the first step. And finally we met, and she want space, she talked a lot about my mistake at all once. So damn worried. I told her on that call that I went into a quarantine slump and wasnt myself and was working on myself as well. i break up with my girlfriend 1 month ago.im 27 yo and she 20 yo. Did I mess up the situation by texting her at all? Shes a dynamic student and always been a great at studies. She said she doesnt know if I can be that person who can fill your heart with love. Is this a good thing? Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Hi apollonia, Ive been with this girl for about 3 months and recently, I knew she was going through a tough time and I wanted to talk to her after school, she ignored me and started walking home so I walked with her and tried talking to her about it, I do feel like I was trying a little too hard and Im worried because she said she needed space and that she didnt need a relationship right now, we eventually got to her house and she told me she was going through alot and she slammed the door in my face. I really dont know what I did wrong to her I thought we were friends. We did! In my head I know Im doing the right thing no matter how long this takes. Shes still been spending time with friends, going out with her friends etc and we have not had any argument at all.. she said she only broke up with her ex boyfriend a couple of weeks before first seeing me so needs time to figure herself out and Space to work on herself.. Everything was going great and maybe i put to much pressure on her and she now said she wasnt sure she would feel like we did when we first went out. Do I contact her every few hours or so? It seems like there is a lot of things going on with her life right now that can be hard for her but I completely understand this! We met on a dating site it was our last effort on this site the last kick at the can if you may say we spent 16 weeks of enjoyment her not working and I as well not working ,, I met a beautiful goddess she is everything that Ive ever wanted in a woman we are both older and have been around the block and we know want,, and is a very exciting and knowledgable about the same things,, she has been abandoned many times from other men and I am the one that wont abandon her because she knows how I feel about her she just wants me to fix the things that she doesnt like about me ,, I must make these changes , in other words and I have been doing these things in a rapid rate and she has praised me on the progress , I treasured her and shes the girl I have looked for all my life she has broken up with me several Times saying that I need to fix myself,, things take time she seems not to want to be around me while I fix myself ,,, and she needs her space since I have showered her with gifts concerts and a great summerluv ,,now fall is upon us and she still has found reason to stop seeing me and wants her space ,, I showed up at her work in the rain with supper,,that I made her fav ,, went back to her place ,, she said only 15 minutes and then I have to rest ,,brushed her hair, rubbed her neck and shoulders and calves ,, rub her feet and listen to her problems of course she did not like this in the end because I was not invited ,, it was a surprise she worked late Tuesday and starts early Wednesday so we only have a brief time to see each other but she says she needs her rest ,,the rest of the week I do not see her except on a Saturday and no sex has been happening for at least a month prior to that it was incredibly amazing and I must say I rocked her world and left her speechless ,, as well as I am speechless ,,so my question is, I will honour her space no contact with her,, although there is an event coming up in a month that I was supposed to go to and I was assured that I was to attend ,, !! It has been a week since she left and we havent talked. I get nervous (probably just some insecurity) that she might be talking to a new man, but I can say she has always been very upstanding, trustworthy and honest with me from day one and something I value about her. Im sorry that you are going through this as I know its incredibly difficult. Is it over for us? She told me she loved me and wanted to be with me, but we just needed to take some space. I have been with my gf for 9 years now and we have 2 kids together, 6 and 3. I would have to understand the dynamics of the relationship in order to give you sound advice. I told her we can work it out and i will do whatever is required despite my several request she didnt change her mind. Personally, I realized i did needed that time to myself to work out some stuff I felt I was done with. Two weeks ago, she stated she had a gut feeling about me and do not think it is going to work. Please help, I was in a 6 year relationship with someone and I ended it. Hi Torey, During that space she texted me and called me regularly as if the space was never requested but day by day she started to get more distant still texting me but not letting me see her to show her Ive changed. I reset myself and agreed. she mentioned that she does not know what she wants right now and that she still loves me and cares for mefollowed by giving me a hug and a kiss on the lips for a few seconds. Hello Neil, thank you for your support and for reading When she says she needs space, heres what to do! Im sorry to hear youve been struggling. I know that she cares and loves me and I told her that I would respect her to give her the time and space. My GF has cancer and depression and we took a break before. Friday that week i went to meet her she saw me and didnt smile even once earlier when she used to meet me she used to hug me tightly but now everything was different and it was hurting me a lot. I have been with my Girlfriend for just over two years she just told me she needs space and a break from the relationship because she needs to work on her. I like the girl a lot, have been there for her and she has been there for me. I really hope you find the time to reply to this Best, I havent heard from her since. If she has said she needs space for a few weeks, take that time to do whatever you please. Apollonia, Hey Apollonia, Love you too. A week ago, she confided that she needed space to think about our relationship as she suddenly developed conscience. Did she explain why? Start your social life. Hi Gerry, It depends on the relationship dynamic. She suffers from anxiety and I havent helped with being snappy, clingy and needy recently due to some developments that turned me into a momentary wuss. Like friends do. Get hobbies, make time with friends. All Rights Reserved. Same issues with the ex he didnt pick up his son and In a way force her to stay home. Hi Jack, I am honoring her request for time and space. We started off slowly and it intensified over the past few weeks. We seemed to agree on everything, a match made in heaven. Hello Apollonia, I have not contacted her since. So everything youre describing makes sense. We go to the same community run on Saturday. Im thinking whether I should start becoming an english teacher in japan or study culinary in canada so I can be a much better person for her but mostly to myself. So my situation is like this ,i was best friend with this girl for like a year and we were just perfect with each other , always talking and meeting and stuff , but with the time i fell in love with her , the problem is that she has never had a boyfriend and she was too afraid of commitment , so she shut me down many times , until i got fed-up and i just walked away , then she started pursuing me and saying that she wants to be friends again and stuff , i thought i could that but with time i just couldnt do it , she did something really great for me in my birthday and her birthday was during that week too , so i did something very special for her , and she showed her appreciation and love for me , but still as friends, but after that i have just walked away, and i was very cold towards her , and i applied the no contact rule but later after a week she surprised me one morning with a text saying that she loves me and she wants to be involved with me romantically, i was excited and so happy to the degree that i ignored the basics of your teachings , so i acted needy all the time , texting , asking to meet her and every mistake possible , so she pulled away, the problem is that i come from a different background , sex is something prohibited for us until we get married , even a kiss is not allowed and thats okay because its my religion , but the problem is that without that , i am missing a big part of the relationship chemistry because were only involved emotionally and not physically , so i tend to do a lot to make up for that and most of the time that pushes her away , given that she is a very busy person and we hardly meet , so she likes to text a lot . I would also suggest reading Amir Levines Attached book. Hi I recently met this girl that was super into me and was super attracted to me I had no doubt that the relationship is gonna go further we had no fights that would make things trouble in paradise. Apologies for long text This makes the attraction level very low in the relationship. She never once said, we need to talk. https://www.apolloniaponti.com/blog/ and https://www.youtube.com/c/ApolloniaPonti Team Apollonia. Do I just wait for the weekend? You can possibly save the relationship by focusing on getting back to a healthy mindset. Please help me. Can you help?. Both articles made it clear to focus on ones self which is easy. She was very affictionate and caring. I try to help her around the house as much as I can, but I am gone most of the day and I can only do so much. It hurts. Sincerely, She was my staff but a few months ago ttansfered to another company. Hi Ani, Should I text her after 1 week? Never had problems in relationship. I set up a date. She stated that when I come down we needed to go to relationship counseling and I agreed to it. How long should the space be ? But before we go into this, I think its important for me to state one thing. I cant help but think someone else is involved or she really needs to just give us time. She also text me to say that shed had a really nice time. Then I asked her if she wants to continue being with me and she said I dont know. You have to understand you already are. Apollonia. Best, Hi Mario, Love can provide the biggest lessons for growth as an individual and if we dont learn from them, we live in worry, fear, and misery. My girl and I are not from the same country and we have been apart for three months now and before we had not known each other for that long. Hey, My girl said she needed space, time to herself because shes going through a rough patch. together 8 months, last week she requested a month break. As much as we were connected everyday, are these the right things I should be doing? My wife and I have been married for about 3 years. She recently requested for space and I granted her. In the last few months I have had some struggles with my health and other personal things that has created some depression. Now we are living in a small city, where for the last year I have felt really isolated, it is hard to get some friends because of language/culture barriers, I also have had many issues on my job, so in general many things are not going right Recently we got to a really bad point on the relation. 1. I know how heartbreaking this must be. its gone be ruff but it has has to be done an no I am not all good with it but ik I had too.. How does this apply to when she was cheated on by her ex-husband? She stated that i should be her main priority in everything but that I am just simply not because she is not happy with herself. She seemed upset as she claimed her parents may not want us to be together. Later on that day her ex husband popped up and thats the first time I met him which everything was civil between us and was ok with me being there. https://www.apolloniaponti.com/private-coaching-2/ So I can have a better understanding of your situation and how to move forward. Apollonia. Thanks for your reply! In the last day, I was trying to kiss her but she said I need some space, few days I was like ok. After 3 days I call her to meet on coffee and talk about us, she said I think there is nothing anymore I was like wtf, whats goin on. We wanted to see each other again. her going out with her friends) (And the first time she needed space, I went on vacation for a week and we have a specific chat to keep in touch and she purposely uploaded things on there for me to see, which she also never did either). WebAnswer (1 of 7): Usually yes. Sometimes, a girl needs space when she is overwhelmed by too many things, such as a lot of college or work assignments. Just head to: https://www.apolloniaponti.com/products/, We appreciate your support and look forward to working with you! I admit that i was not spending time with my friends and doing things separate and therefore, one week ago, she told me she wants to break up because she needs her space right now, she said she feels she lost herself and she did not follow her wants, maybe i will not come back she said and moved to a hotel, found a flat and will move there. She wasnt sure about our relationship. Should I be doing anything for myself towards my relationship with her? I love her. then she said Im mom boy,that she doesnt feel we are going to end up married. 2 weeks ago she told me she want us to make a pause, I think she actually needed space, so thats what I gave her. If you get the chance Id like to inform you of it. You are your own pedestal so you deserve to be admired and treated well as well. Over the weekend she was supposed to join me for a movie and then the next day join me and my friends for my birthday celebration. If she asked for space I would recommend you giving it to her and not texting her. No response last night havent messaged today and she hasnt either. Hey! Read the book, focus on you. I hope i get some advises from you to deal with this because she is the girl of my dreams , Hello Paul, What i need to do? Be prepared for at least 3-4 weeks of zero contact with her, and trust that youre doing your relationship a favor by doing so. Although the last message wasnt really a question or anything. Hey Apollonia, 12-Week Transformational Attraction Coaching w/Apollonia, NOW ACCEPTING JANUARY 2023 Enrollments . This could take weeks or months but the best thing you can do in regards for attraction and for yourself is let her initiate contact since she was not to reciprocating before. Not Sexually Pleasing They may not want to sexually please you or give you anything more than what they like to receive. I said okay. Admittedly she said she was unhappy in herself so was snappy and she is in her final year in uni so has added stress with assignments to do etc. We were talking and she mentioned that you can still talk to me if you want, but if you dont want to thats fine and I understand . She said she needed space 2 days ago and honestly my heart is breaking because she means the world to me. Thats the most important and attractive to a woman. Especially if this is what she wants.I know its hard but handling the emotions is the vital part of this process. its hard given her space They were hosting the engagement party and long story short, it was a mess. She was in shut down mode and trying to figure out what is happening in her life. Hey there ive been really interested in a girl at my university and i found out recently she was interested in me, so we decided to go out with each other we spend time together in uni and i spent time with her at her place and had a great night. She did apply for a new job elsewhere last month and have put her resignation in, but talking the other day she said she might stay, cause she feels bad leaving her boss struggling to find someone to replace her and others. Apollonia. I had a feeling after the divorce she would want some sort of freedom bc she was with him since college. I personally feel that we should be more than just that. However, Im slightly confused on exactly how to handle my situation because I have read two of her articles on space and one thing was contradictory. She wouldnt put something online that I can see if she was doing something like that andddd she wouldnt give me the chance to call her a liar after Friday (she said shes only talking to me and doesnt even entertain any other guys and that she doesnt even go out with guy friends alone anymore because she doesnt think its appropriate and shes not comfortable with it because shes pretty and she knows how guys are) so what do I do Apollonia? You might have lost track of your personal life as you both possibly spent every waking minute together. Keep giving her the space. I know what its like, Read More Is She Playing Me? Best of luck and take care! a step back and give each other Same as last week. We teach people how to treat us. Thank you for stopping by and commenting on When she says she needs space. 3. The reason for why she needs some time i asked her she said i m adjusting and compromising the things bcz of her in my life which she says you dont need to compromise or adjust. When she says she needs space, heres what to do! Hi Team Apollonia, Then its time to book a coaching session with me so I can help get you there. I barely get to see her if any at all. As I said before I am not trying to be rude to you or mean but I am being honest. The thing you dont want to do is not give her space and try to reach out too much.

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